The Comparison Trap

posted by Bethel Kids | Sep 28, 2021

Written by Melody Ackerman

You know when you have a jar of mixed nuts and someone picks through and eats all the “good” nuts and you are left with just the “bad” nuts? What about going through a salad bar that only has lettuce or eating a fruit salad made only with apples? 

Just like there are many varieties of nuts, fruits, and vegetables, there are billions of different people in this world and not a single one alike. God created each one of us differently and if we are different, how can we compare? But we do.

One minute, we are looking down at someone and the next looking down at ourself wishing we were different. Comparison doesn’t do us any good. Much like Saul’s hatred of David began when the people sang “Saul has killed the thousands but David has killed the tens of thousands.”  Jealousy stirs in us when we begin comparing ourselves to others. There is no winning when comparing. You will become prideful, discontent, or jealous. The Bible warns about all three.

They call it the comparison trap for good reason. It is a very sticky place to get yourself in. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” When you are in the middle of a comparison trap you might find yourself hiding. Shrinking back into the shadows and becoming useless which is exactly what the enemy wants, but I know God wants more for us. He wants us to use our God given gifts to glorify Him.

It isn’t easy these days with social media. We see other people’s kids, families, vacations, homes, and food. It spoon-feeds us comparisons. However, you don’t have to be on social media to compare. It can happen in your own family. For example, comparing your kids to one another which can cause sibling rivalry or make them feel like they aren’t good enough.

Just think if we could teach our kids how to celebrate our differences and encourage those around to do what they are created to do; to instill trust they have been fearfully and wonderfully made like no one else. For His purpose.

In October we will be learning in elementary about how God made each person unique and special for His purpose. We have resources that will go with each lesson that you can talk about and do throughout the week with your kids. Make sure to stop by our Kids Page for all kinds of fun resources. You will also want check out Facebook or Instagram for daily prompts that go with that week’s lesson.


“Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” Galatians 6:4-5

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