Hand out a sheet of paper to each group member that has a list of everyone’s names that are a part of the group. Next, have each person write on the list whether they think the person is a first born, middle child, youngest, or only child. Once everyone is done, go around and have each member reveal their birth order to the group.
Discuss: How did your birth order affect you growing up? Did you have a specific role or place in your family? What place do you find yourself in God’s family?
1. Read Romans 12:10 and Titus 2:1-8. How does the Bible challenge or compliment your personal understanding of how we should be engaging one another?
2. Sometimes it’s more convenient to spend time with people who are in the same life stage as you, but to live biblically, we are called to love selflessly, regardless of how young or old we are. Do you spend time with your nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, and grandparents “in Christ”? If you don’t have any, how can you go find some?
3. Read Mark 12:29-31, Prov 17:17 and John 15:13. In the US, relationships with your neighbors and friends are not ranked as high priorities, but Jesus’ life would suggest just the opposite. How can you, in faith, follow Jesus’ model and go out of your way to show care to someone you’re not close to?
4. One of the hardest things to do is communicate well with another person. Perhaps it is because it takes God’s love to effectively do so. Read Prov 18 and discuss how the quality of communication can be affected by love, or the lack thereof.
5. Read Acts 2:42. Have you experienced the local church becoming like a family to you? Share what bonded you to the family of God. Intent: We are members of the same body, with a need for one another and a bond that is not found in the world.
6. Read 1 John 1:7. Can you share a time you met a total stranger, yet sensed Christ in them. Did you discuss your faith with this person? Intent: We are not only part of a local church family but of the worldwide family of God.
Prayer Prompt: Ask God to help you understand what keeps you from vulnerably connecting with others and Him. Ask Jesus to help you become secure in Him so that you can truly treat others as image bearers of God, regardless of who they are and how they treat you.
Application: Read Colossians 1:21-24. Plan on making it a habit to come to church 10 minutes early. Look around for people who are alone or sitting by themselves in the sanctuary. Be intentional and talk to this person by saying hello, introducing yourself, and asking about the other person.