Written by Kim Wilson
I am an introvert. Fact. I need a lot of time to myself. Fact. I’ve been this way since I was a little. Fact. Quarantined throughout the past nine months has been a challenge for everyone. Fact. The Holy Bible tells us to gather together and that Jesus ate in a gathering. Truth.
I recently recalled a conversation with a friend years ago about this very thing. She and her husband have always had very demanding careers and work late hours. Family dinner time has been a rare thing for them. She decided to set a goal of having dinner together twice a week. That was an achievable goal for them and something they grew to value and look forward to.
Since November is the gathering-with-family-around-the-table month, I decided this is the perfect opportunity to set my own goal. With our teens, five dinner days a week is a reasonable goal.
Growing up, our family dinners were a source of tension. Children being children, elbows on the table, not liking what’s for dinner… but we can change something that has a negative association to a positive association. It can begin in small ways.
• First, I prayed that God would change my heart regarding this issue. I prayed for months.
• Second, I decided to set a reasonable goal of five days/week.
• Third, I’m reforming a habit to call everyone to the table.
It’s also appreciated when I set a nicer table with a candle votive or some flowers. This doesn’t happen very often, but when I do, it changes the mood and my guys appreciate my effort.
I won’t quote you the studies on the positive results of kids growing up at the dinner table. I do have some Bible verses though!
Proverbs 15:17 "Better is a dish of vegetables where love is than a fattened ox served with hatred." (“Mom, what’s for dinner?”)
Matthew 9:10 "Then it happened that as Jesus was reclining at the table" … (read the rest for yourself)
John 12:2 "So they made Him a supper there, and Martha was serving, but Lazarus was one of those reclining at the table with Him."
Matthew 26:20-21 "When evening came, Jesus was reclining at the table with the Twelve. And while they were eating, …"