Written by Kim Wilson
After years of working in corporate, we decided I would stay home with our boys. Coming home full time was a complete shock! From a busy career and travel to 24-7 with an infant and a toddler, well let’s just say things took time to adjust. A few years after being in my new role, I realized that our home and family were an organization. Our Wilson Organization. And the professional skills that I had developed in the business world were transferrable to our home organization. Skills like finance and running a budget (four people on one income), scheduling and planning skills (naps, preschool, playdates, and T-ball), and even my customer service skills. My family, in a sense, are my customers because I serve them. This job, I could do!
One skill I didn’t realize I possessed was leadership. I never saw myself as a leader. Growing up the middle child and the quiet one in the family, I viewed myself as a very good assistant to a strong leader. I suppose you could say that’s marriage. Supporting my husband in our relationship. But even after a couple of years of being a stay-at-home-mom, it still hadn’t dawned on me that I was a leader.
Then I volunteered for Bethel’s Vacation Bible School (VBS). I assumed I would be given a role as a teacher of a small group of children like I had in past VBS camps. But instead, I was put in a leadership role with challenging teenagers reporting to me and lots of little eyes looking to me to organize and run their fun VBS games. It was through that challenging summer experience that I realized I was a leader. I also realized that we all have leadership potential. As moms and dads, we are definitely leadership material.
• We teach. Teaching is a form of leadership.
• We set an example. Our kids look to us.
• We are stewards. Responsible for minors, and for the resources God has blessed us with to manage.
The Bible has a lot of verses regarding leadership for church elders, prophets, and kings. It also has verses regarding leadership for us as Christians. After all, since we are entrusted with The Gospel, we are given leadership responsibility.
With this in mind, what will considering yourself as a leader change in how you carry out your parenting role? For me, it made me feel more purposeful and more intent in my stay-at-home-mom job. It’s easy to discount this role or parenting in general compared to a prestigious career or job description. Viewing myself as a leader in being a mom, wife, and household manager made me feel more valuable in my contribution to my family. That in turn caused me to rise to the challenge of my new role as successfully as I could. The role of a parental leader is important.
What's the Bible Say?
Looking to scripture and Jesus Christ’s words, we receive the best leadership example. Here are just a few verses.
“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
I Peter 5:3~
“Not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples of the flock.”
"With upright heart, he shepherded them and guided them with his skillful hand."
"The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps."