Self Love & Parental Leadership

posted by Bethel Kids | May 11, 2021

Written by Kim Wilson

As part of this series on parental leadership, I wasn’t sure what I should write about this month! I always pray about it in advance. But this time, no answers came into my head or heart. Then I was driving down the street this morning and found myself reflecting in the past. What the 20 something year old me was like. The next thought that came into my mind was, I love her! Okay, hear me out. I mean, I loved the old me. The not-yet-knowing, adventurist, risk-taker me. The thinner me! I gasped. Wow. I never admitted that to myself before because I never really realized that’s how I’ve been feeling. 

As my teens are growing up and needing me less, I’ve been soul searching for the next stage of my life. Now that I have the opportunity to contribute in the world, somewhere besides parenting, what is that, where is that, and what does it look like? I knew this time would come. That I’ve been working my way out of a job. Meanwhile, I’ve been catching myself often reflecting on the past and on how good things use to be. It’s contrary to my belief that one’s heart and head is where youthful attitude lies. 

Proverbs 23:7 "For as he thinks within himself, so he is, …" 

I also remember the Bible verse about not living in the past. 

Isaiah 43:18 "Do not call to mind the former things, or consider things of the past. Behold, I am going to do something new, Now it will spring up; Will you not be aware of it? I will even make a roadway in the wilderness, Rivers in the desert."

But the bigger issue/revelation that zinged me this morning was about self-love. I’m not talking about a negative self-love that the world feeds. I’m referring to truly valuing and loving yourself. Hmmm. Interesting, right? Because this is important. 

If I can’t love myself, how can I love others? 

Mark 12:31 "The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” 

If I can’t love myself, how am I honoring God? 

Genesis 1:27 "So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him, male and female He created them."

I need to be an example to my children and to others. 

1 John 4:8 "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." 

I started with confession, then prayed these verses. It’s going to take continued prayer and a focus on loving the current me instead of missing the past me. God is good! And He has richly blessed me. The truth is that when we remember the past, we remember the highlights and forget the heartaches. We forget the unlovely qualities and the not-so-great circumstances at the time. I’m also going to count my blessings for today and thank God for them. 

There is freedom in Christ! And in all areas of our life! One of my life (pun intended) verses is … 

Galatians 5:1 "It is for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery."

That’s something I don’t want to forget! 

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