Seeking Humility in Parenting

posted by Bethel Kids | Jun 8, 2021

Written by Kim Wilson

The Problem with Pride

Growth is important in any leadership role.  Parental leadership included.  As we develop into a better person, we lead in a better, healthier, and more godly way.  In other words, pleasing God and leading others to Him.

A couple of months ago, I decided to seek God in Bible study.  I usually participate in Women’s Bible Study, but this time was different.  I felt a strong pull to complete this one on my own.  Halfway through the study, I was convicted of humility.  I decided that I really want to gain humility the way God sees it and me.

I immediately flashed back to raising our kids and as the imagery rolled through my mind, I could see how I had allowed pride to cloud my thoughts and behaviors.  I could also see how I had contributed to a wrong sense of pride in my kids.  In parenting and in being an example. 

If we are behaving by the way we think, and if we speak by what’s in our heart, then it’s no surprise that something like pride can taint our parenting.

I’m not referring to good pride, like confidence.  Or like pride God talks about in Isaiah 60:15. Here, God is referring to His people being godly and becoming an everlasting pride.  The kind of pride I’m referring to has the following characteristics.

It keeps us from taking wise counsel or accepting help.
It keeps us from working together.
It keeps us from seeking Him.
It keeps us from following the path He has for us.
It causes us to be critical of others and become self-righteous.

Oooh.  And it’s sneaky.  Unrighteous pride is often so well disguised that we, me included, are blinded to its presence.  

So how do we combat it?  

I started with thankfulness. Thank God that He pointed it out to me through His Word and His Holy Spirit.  Followed by a prayer of confession and asking forgiveness. I invited, and still continue to confess and invite God into my heart, as soon as I realize I’m being self-righteous and proud.

Humility doesn’t sound very appealing! I admit. It sounds like the wimp’s way out.  And sometimes it may feel that way to me when I choose to be the first one to say I’m sorry.

Humility has a very different definition in God’s Words and how He sees us.

What the Bible Says About Humility

Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor. Proverbs 18:12 

Pride brings a person low, but the lowly in spirit gain honor. Proverbs 29:23

He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.  And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. Micah 6:8

For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted. Luke 14:11

He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them His way. Psalm 25:9

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Ephesians 4:2

He mocks proud mockers but shows favor to the humble and oppressed. Proverbs 3:34

And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death:  death on a cross. Philippians 2:8


Humility to God is where strongholds are broken and prayers are answered.  It’s where true leadership growth occurs. 

I invite you to seek Him and His Word and see what good things God has for you.  

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